Apart from a snitch (tattle tale), I cannot think of anything I detest more than a busybody. Some people never learn because of this, for them it’s always the the controversy factor, never the learning factor. It’s how people perceive things – some will learn, the majority won’t.
I guess it’s all about attitude and the fact that most people live and die at the door of the Cult of Personality – they cannot see past it, it’s like a huge boulder that stands in their way to progress.
People who snitch or tattle tale have a tendency to forget about themselves – their faults, their wrongs and their ineptness because they’re always looking at others’ faults, wrongs or ineptness.
As a certified Trainer and Assessor I learnt that everyone can learn something from someone else – even if it’s negative or bad – as in “how not to be”.
When you see how ignorant some people are, how lazy others are, how rude, arrogant, bombastic, etc – it teaches you, or it should teach you how not to be – how you don’t want to be, just as you learn positive things from others. Some people are an inspiration, others don’t have enough motivation and glue to make anything stick.
I call it box cake mentality. Box cake seems to pervade every area of their lives. It’s second best. It’s like someone who deliberately lies to save face, and makes things worse, instead of just keeping quiet or apologising. Apart from a tattle tale or snitch, there’s nothing worse than someone who insults one’s intelligence by telling a blatant lie, and the Cult of Personality adherents fail to see it or don’t care. They miss the point totally because it then becomes a case of “who has never told a lie before”, instead of “how about a bit of integrity” as in “doing the right thing” read : engendering respect. They always opt for second best.
1 Timothy 5:13 And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
When you write to get peoples’ attention, to try and make them think, (the proverbial kick in the rear end) and all some can see is Cult of Personality and so fail to see the bigger picture, you realise that some people will never learn, unfortunately, and as an Assessor, you learn to move on, and spend time and energy on those who have the “spark of intelligence” that goes over and beyond the box cake mentality.
Nice on the outside but stunted on the inside.